You and Your Body Are Not Communicating

A man and a woman having an argument

Have you ever seen a couple arguing? Even though they are speaking (or yelling) at each other, they are clearly not understanding the point the other person is trying to make. Sometimes, it seems like they are not speaking the same language. Each one is just speaking at the other with no regard for what the other person is saying.

We’ve all seen it, and most of us have probably been that couple.

With your body it’s same thing. Your body is screaming “I need this,” and you are screaming back “porque?!” When will the arguing stop?

Your body speaks a very simple language

Your body speaks very few words. Three of them are protein, carbohydrates, and fat. When we eat, our body’s digestive system does some amazing and very sophisticated stuff that is way beyond the scope of this article. But for a brief moment, we will take it back to highschool biology.


First, our body breaks food into two major categories:

  1. Micronutrients: Vitamins & Minerals
  2. Macronutrients: protein, carbohydrates, and fat

Next, our body breaks those big macronutrients into their individual component parts:

Carbohydrates: Breaks into either 1 molecule or a combination of 3 molecules known as monosaccharides. These molecules are glucose, fructose, and galactose.

Protein: Breaks into amino acids. There are 20 different amino acids, of which our body can make roughly half for itself, but we must consume and eat the other half.

Fat: Breaks into glycerol and fatty acids. There are three types of fatty acids known as saturated, monounsaturated, and polyunsaturated.

So far so good?

The second we start eating something, our body recruits enzymes to break the food down to extract nutrients from it.

When we eat protein, carbs, and fat, our body responds by:

  1. Identifying the macronutrient
  2. Breaking it down
  3. Sending it into our bloodstream for absorption and use

If those macronutrients come from a cookie, banana, or broccoli, the process is exactly the same.

This means, protein is just protein, carbs are just carbs, and fat are just fat. The source is irrelevant.

You are crazy, man

I know this might sound crazy to you, but it's not my opinion, it's biology. And you have seen what this looks like in action without realizing it:




People who eat plenty of fresh fruit when on a diet because it is “healthy” sugar.


Sugar is just sugar

People who eat salads for lunch to get rid of a spare tire.


Sugar is just sugar (yes vegetables have carbohydrates aka sugar)

People who snack on nuts because they are a “healthy” alternative to chips and great for weight loss.


Fat is just fat

So how is it that you can eat the healthiest of foods - fruits, vegetables, nuts, and seeds - but not dropping a pound?

The answer is that you and your body are not communicating.

Time to start communicating

When couples seek counseling, the number one way to start dealing with their problems is to begin communicating, speaking to each other, and being patient enough to understand the needs, desires, and wishes of the other person.

Again, when it comes to your body, it's time to start communicating. You do have a relationship with your body, and it might be time to start listening. Eating “healthy” does not mean you are eating properly for you are body. This is where the language barrier begins, but now we need to focus on fixing it.

How to fix it

Awareness: Are you aware of how much you are eating? Do you know how many grams of protein, carbs, and fat you are eating? Is that consistent day in and day out?

Drop assumptions: Just because something is traditionally labeled as “good” or “bad,” does it actually mean that it is? Is food is just food? Does food have feeling or just macronutrients?

Eat according to your body: Are you eating right for your body? Are you taking tips from someone at the gym on what works for them? Does that mean that it is right for you? Do you have a plan that works for your body, your activity level, your needs, and preferences?

I can’t tell you how these three simple concepts have changed the lives of some of our clients. Most of our clients came to us:

  • Not eating enough
  • Unbalanced between protein, carbs, and fat
  • Trying to constantly eat clean, only to balance it with eating dirty

Enough of the Yo-Yo Relationship

If you have read my articles or seen any of my videos, you know I am not a fan of yo-yo dieting. Neither is your body. The “eat clean Monday-Friday, cheat on the weekend” strategy is a recipe for disaster, and it is hurting you more than your realize. Not just physically, but emotionally.

Like anything else in life, the secret to losing weight or feeling great about your body is consistency. Not a magic pill, not a magic diet, not a magic bullet.

Pawel is a good communicator

Pawel before and after pictures

Pawel is one of my favorite stories. We began working together in the middle of July. The first picture (red shorts) is where we began. Pawel was by no means in bad shape. But he worked out so hard, ate healthily, yet he couldn’t find abs. I met Pawel at a seminar at his gym and we began working together.

He Did

He Did Not

Continue to Eat the Foods he liked

Deprive himself

Feed his body the right amount of macronutrients

Focus on only eating healthy

Go out to eat

Stay at home when his friends were out

Begin communicating and listening to his body

Continue to hold down the mute button on what his body was saying

Nutrition is Power

Pawel’s story doesn’t stop there. In our communication, he tells me:

  • How good he feels since he started our program
  • That he loves that he didn’t have to make drastic changes
  • That he eats foods that he enjoys
  • He loves what he sees in the mirror

I don’t need to tell you how powerful those things are. We all want to have a better relationship with the scale, and a body we are proud of, all while still enjoying our lives. If you want the power of nutrition, you will need to start speaking its language.

To learn more about my anti-diet approach to weight loss, start with my workshop below. 

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